END OF LIFE: Death, dying, and living with loss
Living with Loss
I am drawn to grief counselling. I appreciate the value of conscious listening and compassionate witnessing.
Losing a loved-one is one of life’s biggest challenges and you do not need to face it alone. Having the caring presence of a compassionate counsellor can make all the difference when coping with a loss.
Member: Soul Carers Network
Mentor: Trudi Penkler, Psychologist
End of Life
At the end of life, facing your own mortality, demands coming to terms with the loss of all you love and hold dear. It is at this time we may find ourselves with questions about the meaning of life, our values, beliefs and existence. A terminal diagnosis or serious illness can bring you tremendous turmoil and being able to speak about it to a compassionate counsellor can be helpful
Whether we share similar beliefs or not, I hope to create a space that allows for your personal philosophical reflection, and exploration of your thoughts and emotions in facing loss.
My journey of loss and grief is my deepest resource. Like all of us, I have lost close friends and family members. I draw on the experiences of losing both the old and the very young: I have buried my seven-month-old son and my 70-year-old father. And most transforming was the death of my husband and partner for almost 40 years who died of metastatic cancer in my arms during the Covid pandemic.
Knowing the pain of great loss has, in the words of Frank Ostaseski, “cracked me wide open”, I believe it has opened me to be compassionate in the presence of the pain of others.
My worldview is rooted in ethical Secular Humanism and Atheism. I offer support to bereaved and dying people with the deepest respect and without bias or prejudice, no matter your faith, worldview, or sexual orientation.
Whether we share similar beliefs or not, I hope to create a space that allows for your personal philosophical reflection in facing loss. Togerther we can explore ideas and metaphors that resonate with your perspective.
I serve people excluded from religious institutions either due to their worldview or sexual orientation. I am cisgender heterosexual, but consider myself an LGBTIQA+ ally and an activist. I conduct secular funerals, memorials, naming ceremonies, and marriages.
Member: South African Secular Society